Sunday, 5 January 2014

Peringatan Diriku Yang Lemah

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60 islamic guaranteed ways for real couples making love

1 Make her feel secure; (sakina- tranquillity) QUIT BEING AGGRESSIVE.
2 When you go home say ‘Assalmualikum. ‘ (Greetings) It kicks the shaitaan out of your home!
3 Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) described the wife as a fragile vessel and said to take care of this vessel that’s fragile. Remember that there is goodness in this vessel so treat it gently.
4 When you advise her, do so in privacy, in a peaceful environment. NOT IN PUBLIC as it’s a type of slandering.
5 Be generous to your wife- it keeps her LOVED
6 Move and let her have your seat. It will warm her heart.
7 AVIOD ANGER. HOW? Keep your wudu at all times. Prophet Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam said if you are angry, sit down, if you’re sitting, then lie down. Follow the sunnah!
8 Look good and smell great for your wife. IT keeps the LOVE!
9 Don’t be rigid. It will break you. Prophet Mohammed – Sallal lahu Aleihi Wasallam (SAW means “May the blessings and the peace of Allah be upon him” (Muhammad).) said ‘I am the best amongst you and I am the best to my wife’. Being rigid and harsh will not bring you close to Allah and neither does it make you more of a man.
10 Listen to your wife-BE a GOOD LISTENER
11 YES to flattering NO to arguing. Arguing is like poison in a marriage. Al zawai said ‘When Allah (swt) wants evil for people He will leave them to argue amongst themselves’.
12 Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said to call your wives with the best name, any name she loves to hear. Prophet Mohammed (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) called Khadija ‘Ya Khadija’ as an endearment.
13 Give her a pleasant surprise. I.e. if she loves watermelon, bring her one out of the blue. It will grow the love in her heart.
14 Preserve your tongue! Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said the tongue will throw people in the hell fire so watch what you say and how you say it!
15 All of us have shortcoming. Accept her shortcoming and Allah (swt) will put barakh in your marriage.
16 TELL her you appreciate her. SHOW her you appreciate her.
17 Encourage her to keep good relation with her relative, her mum and dad etc.
18 Speak with her with a topic of HER interest.
19 In front of her relative praise her. Confirm/ realize that she is wonderful, and that she is a good person in front of her family.
20 Give each other gifts. You will love each other more. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said gifts increases love.
21 Get rid of the routine once in a while, surprise her with something, it will get rid of the rust and polish it!
22 Husnul zaan- We have a demand from Allah (swt) that we have to think good of people. Think good of your spouse.
23 Ignore some of her mistakes- pretend you did not see/hear some of her small mistakes. It was a practise of Ali (RA). It’s like putting a hole in your memory. Don’t save it in your memory!
24 Increase the drops of patience, especially when she is pregnant or when she is on her monthly period.
25 Expect and respect her jealousy. Even Maulatona Khadija (ra) used to get jealous.
26 Be humble. If your profession is good, respect that she is looking after your children, she is much more than you, she is the leader at home, her strength is your strength, and her success is your successes.
27 Don’t put your friends above your wife.
28 Help your wife at home. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) used to help his wives at home and he was the best of creation. He used to sew his own clothes.
29 Help her respect your parents, you can’t force her to love them, but she can be helped to gradually love them.
30 Show your wife she is the ideal wife.
31 Remember your wife in your duaas. It will increase the love and protect it.
32 Leave the past. It brings nothing but pain and grief. It’s not your business. The past is for Allah (swt).
33 Don’t try to show her that you are doing her a favour by doing something, like buying food for the house, because in reality we are the courier of sustenance, not the providers, as Allah is the provider. It’s also a way of being humble and thankful to Allah (swt)
34 Shaitaan is your enemy, not your wife. Sometime when husband and wife are talking a fight breaks out, then shaitaan is present there as a third person so he is the real enemy. It is not enough to hate the shaitaan, but you have to see him as an enemy as Allah has commanded. Shaitaan loves divorce. HE comes everyday and sits office and asks the devils what they have done, some say i have made a person steal, or i have made someone drink etc. And one devil will say i have made a man divorce his wife, and he is crowned as the one who has done the best job.
35 Take the food and put it in her mouth. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) taught us this. It’s a blessing. The food doesn’t just go to her stomach, but straight to her heart. It increases the love and mercy between you.
36 Protect your wife from the evil of the shaitaan and mankind. She is like a precious pearl that needs protecting from the envy of human devils and shitaan.
37 Show her your smile. Smile at your wife. IT’S A CHARITY.
38 Small problems/ challenges can become a big problem. Or if there is small thing she didn’t like and you keep repeating them anyway, it will create a wall between you. Don’t ignore them as it can become big.
39 Avoid being harsh hearted and moody. Allah said of prophet (saw) ‘if you were harsh hearted they (the companions) would have left you.’ It confirms prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) was not harsh hearted, so GET RID OF IT.
40 Respect her thinking. It’s strength for you. Show you like her thoughts and suggestions.
41 Help her to achieve her potential and help her to dig and find success within as her success is your success.
42 Respect the intimate relationship and its boundaries. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said she is like a fragile vessel and she needs to be treated tenderly. Sometime she may not be feeling well; you must respect and appreciate that feeling.
43 Help her to take care of the children. Some men think it makes them appear less of a man but in fact it makes you appear a bigger man and more respected, especially in the sight of Allah (swt).
44 Use the gifts of the tongue and sweet talk her. Tell her she looks great, be an artist. Pick and choose gifts of the tongue.
45 Sit down and eat with her and share food with her.
46 Let her know you are travelling. Don’t tell her out of the blue as it’s against Islam. Tell her the date/ time of when you are coming back also.
47 Don’t leave the house as soon as trouble brews.
48 The house has privacy and secrecy. Once you take this privacy and secrecy to your friends and family you are in danger of putting a serious hole in your marriage. This secrecy stays home. Islam is against leaving them out like a garage sale for anyone to come and pick and choose.
49 Encourage each other for ibadah, i.e. plan a trip for hajj or umrah together. It increases and strengthens the love when you help each other perform a good deeds together i.e, do tahajuud together,or go to a dars together etc.
50 Know her rights, not only written in paper but engraved in your heart and engraved in your conscious.
51 Allah( swt) said ‘live with your wives in kindness.’ Treat them with kindness and goodness. It means in happy times and in sadness treat her with goodness and fairness.
52 Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) showed that at the time of intimacy. Don’t jump on your wife like an animal!
53 When you have a dispute with your wife don’t tell everyone. It’s like leaving your wounds open to germs so be careful who you share your problems and disputes with.
54 Show your wife you really care for her health. Good health of your wife is your good health. To care for her health shows her that you love her.
55 Don’t think you are always right. No matter how good you are you have shortcomings. You are not perfect as the only one who was perfect in character was prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam). Get rid of this disease.
56 Share your problems, your happiness, and your sadness with her.
57 Have mercy on her weakness. Have mercy when she is weak or strong as she is the fragile vessel. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that your wife is a trust in your hand.
58 Remember you are her strength, someone to lean on in times of hardship.
59 Accept her as she is. Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that women are created from the rib which is bent. If you try to straighten her you will break her (divorce). Prophet (Sallal lahu alaihy Wasallam) said that you may dislike one habit in her but you will like another manner in her so accept her as she is.
60 Have good intention for your wife all the time, Allah monitors your intention and your heart at all times. Allah (s.w.t) said Among His Signs is that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect.

May Allah fill our homes and heart with tranquillity, love and Mercy. AMEEN

Wednesday, 1 January 2014

Dia Dah Hampir

Assalamualaikum Semua..

Apa khabar.. harap2nya semuanya khabar baik dan sentiasa diberikan hidayah oleh Allah.. termasuk juga diri saya yang lemah ini..

Pada kali ini.. saya ingin menyentuh perkara yang ditunggu2 oleh setiap Umat Islam atau manusia yang mempunyai nilai harmoni yang sangat tinggi..

Maksud saya di sini adalah menunggu saatnya keamanan seluruh dunia ini. Ye la.. apa yang kita tahu.. hampir seluruh dunia sedang berperang senjata. perang harta, dan perang pendapat. contoh perang senjata adalah syiria, afganistan, iraq, iran, dan mesir pun hampir tiba. Perang harta adalah negeri2 yang sentiasa berperang atau bergaduh dengan nilai rasuah dan penyelewengan harta dan termasuk juga negeri yang sedang mengalami kemiskinan. Perang pendapat pula seluruh dunia berlaku iaitu perbezaan pendapat sehingga menyebabkan umat ini berpecah2..

Dalam hadis Nabi pernah disebut. Umat aku akan berpecah kepada 73 pecahan. 1 akan masuk syurga. 72 lagi akan masuk neraka. (saya lupa sanad dan diriwayatkan dari siapa, maklumlah orang jahil berbicara, cuma atas inisiatif menyampaikan perkara yang benar, bagitahu juga la kan.) kalau nak tahu secara sahih sanad hadis atau perawinya. boleh rujuk buku hadis dan mengadap orang yang lebih alim lagi.

Berbalik kepada perang pendapat tadi. seluruh dunia berlaku perang pendapat ini sehingga menyebabkan terdapat beberapa kaum. ada kaum yang benar dan kaum yang  tidak benar. kalau fikir secara dekat adalah di Malaysia.. Telah berpecah kepada beberapa parti. sehingga ulama pun berpecah untuk saling backup group masing2. kalau nak fikir secara menyeluruh perpecahan antara Umat Islam yang berpegang dengan sunnah wal jamaah dengan muktazilah,syiah,yahudi,ajaran sesat dan banyak lagi.

Secara kesimpulannya di sini.. keadaan dunia sekarang ini sudah berada dalam keadaan berpecah belah.. paling dibimbangi adalah perpecahan Umat Islam. dengan sebab ini.. maka ramai manusia inginkan kesatuan.. ingin melihat manusia itu bersatu semula seperti bersatunya pada zaman Nabi Muhammad S.A.W.

Pada pandangan saya.. Untuk bersatu pasti dan wajib memerlukan seseorang yang menggerakkan supaya manusia dapat bersatu semula di bawah matlamat yang sama, niat yang sama, tujuan yang sama, cara yang sama, dan kaedah yang sama untuk menjadi 1. Siapakah yang akan menjadi perantara atau medium untuk menyatukan kesemua ini seluruh dunia? supaya dunia menjadi kembali aman.. kembali suci dari rasuah.. suci dari fitnah.. suci dari kezaliman.. suci dari semua sudut.. siapakah yang layak???  tidak lain dan tidak bukan.. kita mesti persiapkan diri untuk menerima kehadiran orang ini.. apabila dia datang.. dia akan menegakkan semula ke arah yang satu tadi.. dunia akan menjadi aman semula.. tapi orang2 yang mengikut dia hanyalah yang layak juga.. tiada syirik, tiada kepentingan dunia dalam diri, tiada riak. tiada takbur. tiada hasad, dan amalan yang wajib tidak ditinggalkan.. amalan yang lain tidak dilupakan.

Dia yang dimaksudkan ialah Imam Mahdi..

Semua Umat Islam di akhir zaman mseti mengetahui tentang Imam Mahdi.. kerana kedatangan Imam Mahdi akan menjadi menyebabkan kita selamat dari azab Allah. Mungking juga kita akan lenyap dengan kemurkaan Allah akibat tidak menurut Imam Mahdi (nauzubillah).

Ini salah satu tempat yang boleh dipeljari.. klik link di bawah ini.. semoga berguna. sekian terima kasih.